Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new.
It has been recognized that there are many contenders that create distressed relationships. To summarize one could say it is a production of disconnected emotions and needs of attachment that have not been met.
It can be created slowly and quietly as the years go by until one day you realize that the one person you counted on the most seems to be abandoning you. Or, you find yourselves arguing frequently becoming more and more frustrated and helpless to stop it.
If infidelity has intruded into your relationship it often can be traced back to these issues.
What to do?
What if you could learn what is preventing you from maintaining a closeness and availability for support and protection? What if you could learn now to share the task of dealing with life’s uncertainties in an open and safe way ? What if you discovered how you impact each other with the automatic responses you give from a place of fear and anxiety and that this new realization would be the foundation of effectively reaching for each other rather than pushing each other away?
A major step in couple therapy is to learn how to join together to limit your negative dance and the insecurity it causes. You become aware of each other’s emotional needs and fears which helps you to de-escalate the cycle of reactive responses. From that point you can restructure your communications to an enlightened level of understanding and authenticity.
Couple counseling is a courageous endeavor—it means recognizing you need help and daring to open up to someone you have never met before. It is also a conjoint effort—through commitment and rapport I work together with you to bring about the appropriate change for you. And it is a change effect—you are renewed and brought to a more integrated relationship.
The courage to seek couples counseling is an admirable first step to reaching the harmony you desire in your relationship. In a safe and confidential environment, I offer counseling services to provide the tools you need as a couple for success. Contact me to schedule an appointment.